Defending the Raven

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R.I.P. Perfekt Dad

For those of you who have been around from the early days of my blog you know that the reason I started blogging was because I became friendly online with another bi married guy. Our stories mirrored each other in lots of ways, but differed in enough ways for us to be there for each other in important ways. He started a blog and that got me doing it as well. He didn’t update as nearly often as I did, but when he did posts were pretty to the point and worth it.

Back in September and October when my life went to shit with work and stuff his did as well. It was kinda freaky how similar things went down for us. Given all that happened he has decided to pull down the PerfektDad blog. The reason is because things are going really good in his life with his family. He’s still dealing with some fallout of things, but things are really good. He’s a happy stay at home dad and adjusting to a life without the 9:00 to, well, middle of the night job.

Just wanted to let those of you who’ve been around for while and wondered what happened to him know.


January 7, 2007 - Posted by | Uncategorized


  1. Thanks for the update. I was wondering about that.

    Comment by Viviane | January 7, 2007 | Reply

  2. Send him my best wishes, Mark, would you? I still think of him and he supported me for a while there too.
    I hope someday we cross paths and don’t even realize it!
    My best to him and those he loves.

    Comment by e.e. | January 8, 2007 | Reply

  3. Thanks for the note. His blog was one of the first I found. I’ve missed reading it.

    Comment by Paul | January 10, 2007 | Reply

  4. Hi…it’s PerfektDad. I’m catching up on this blog after a long absence. Mark and I haven’t even chatted in a while because we’ve had different things going on.

    I am doing well. I think I wrote once on my blog that my bisexual feelings come and go…if that makes any sense to anyone. Possibly due to some other things that have happened in my life, the attraction to men hasn’t been there for a while. Actually I shouldn’t say the attraction has gone away, but the desire to do anything with another man has. I’m not suggesting that my bisexuality has gone away…at this point I don’t even want that to happen. It may be like any marriage…sometimes stress and other things absent make it easy for someone to cheat or think about it…and other times that person could never imagine wanting to cheat. Right now I’m in that second place and all is well. I’ve had long conversations with myself and others about this before and don’t expect it to last forever. But lately I’ve been putting myself and my family first rather than running the rat race that was my life for a couple years. I think that has made all the difference. I didn’t mean to use Mark’s blog as my own personal writing space, but I think he’ll forgive me. Maybe soon he and I will even catch up with each other again.

    And to those who’ve wondered or asked about me…thank you. I still read your blogs occassionally too.

    Comment by Anonymous | January 30, 2007 | Reply

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